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Ode to my father. - Fluorescent Dreams Wax Cylinders

21st of November, 2012

21:14 - Ode to my father.

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My earliest memories of my father were his stories. Whether they were about Schindterhanas, a young German boy who had adventures around his farm, or about “Agent C-3” the spy, his creativity came out every night.

My father's business skills were well-known. From restaurants like Captain Kidd's Pub in downtown New York City to creating Discotronics, one of the world's first video stores, he was talented at recognizing and taking advantage of opportunities. Even after he retired, he used his business skills to analyze and invest in the stock market.

His talents in art and craft were less known. He once showed me his drawings from his college years: they showed his skill and patience. While he lived in Mexico, he learned to create stained-glass windows. He played the organ well. Music was a constant in his life: often smooth reinterpretations of popular music, but sometimes something more unusual. He once told me that his favorite style of music was the Viennese Waltz.

Few would recognize his biggest artwork: a house and five acres in Loxahatchee that he designed and built. He spent many months supervising the building of his perfect Florida ranch house before we moved into it. He designed the property's artificial lake, the guest house with his office and a workroom, and the solar heating for the in-ground pool. He even selected the dozens of kinds of fruit trees that occupied the property. Even near the end of his life, he would visit hardware stores to find the perfect tool or part to fix problems at home.

Second to my mother and I, he loved dogs. I grew up with a black cocker spaniel (who was paper-trained before I was), two Dalmatians (who were both convinced that I was one of them), and poodles.

He loved the good life. When he was younger, he loved good cigars. Throughout his life, he loved drinking scotch and soda, and taking the occasional cruise. He enjoyed the game of bridge, and met many wonderful people because of it. But he loved travel most of all. He traveled the world for the Navy, and he took me to Europe, Mexico, and through the Caribbean many times when I was a young teenager. The last time I saw him, I asked him if he had any regrets. “Yes,” he said. “That I didn't travel more.”

I will always miss you. Goodbye.

Sincerely,
Your “Big Boy”.

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From:ladyegreen
Date:2012-Nov-22 05:41 am (UTC)
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He sounds like he was a man of many gifts and talents.
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From:chipuni
Date:2012-Nov-22 05:20 pm (UTC)
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That, indeed, he was.

*hug*
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From:tuftears
Date:2012-Nov-22 06:46 am (UTC)
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*hugs*
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From:chipuni
Date:2012-Nov-22 05:20 pm (UTC)
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*hugs back*
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From:chipuni
Date:2012-Nov-22 05:20 pm (UTC)
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Thank you so much.
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From:loganberrybunny
Date:2012-Nov-22 12:43 pm (UTC)
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He sounds like a very fine man. Peace to him, and to all who love him.
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From:chipuni
Date:2012-Nov-22 05:19 pm (UTC)
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Thanks, Logan.

He wasn't. But it's the side that I want to celebrate of him.

I do wish him peace.
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From:richardf8
Date:2012-Nov-22 07:44 pm (UTC)
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May his memory be a blessing.

I have a friend who is fond of saying of her mother "It was much easier to make peace with her after she was dead."

Sounds like you are well on your way.
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From:chipuni
Date:2012-Nov-22 08:47 pm (UTC)
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That sentiment is beautiful. I agree with it fully.

Thanks.
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From:chipuni
Date:2012-Nov-23 05:02 am (UTC)
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It wasn't easy to write, but it's how I hope he's remembered.
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From:nicodemusrat
Date:2012-Nov-23 01:38 am (UTC)
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I'm sorry to hear but that was a lovely tribute. Strength and condolences to you.
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From:chipuni
Date:2012-Nov-23 05:02 am (UTC)
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Thank you so much.
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From:chipuni
Date:2012-Nov-23 06:30 pm (UTC)
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*hugs*

Thank you, Axiom.
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From:equusmaximus
Date:2012-Nov-24 04:16 am (UTC)
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My condolances on your loss, and that was indeed a lovely tribute. I'm glad you were able to write something that will help you cherish the good times, and to have shared that with us. Thank you for sharing those positive memories.
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From:chipuni
Date:2012-Nov-24 01:46 pm (UTC)
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*hugs you*

Thanks so much, Proxima.
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From:_wastrel
Date:2012-Nov-24 10:58 am (UTC)
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It's good that you'd still be able to remember these things as well, and thank you for having shared them with us. This is of course never easy for anyone, but the circumstances must also make it difficult for its own unique reasons. My condolences.
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From:chipuni
Date:2012-Nov-24 01:47 pm (UTC)
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*hugs*

Thanks, Wastrel.
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From:kylet
Date:2012-Nov-25 12:19 am (UTC)
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Erg. Sorry to hear it, man. :hugs: S'a lovely little tribute, though.

Take care of yourself.
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From:chipuni
Date:2012-Nov-28 02:37 am (UTC)
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Thanks a lot, Kylet. *hugs*
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From:zefel
Date:2012-Nov-28 12:05 am (UTC)
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aww, how sweet (HUG!)
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From:chipuni
Date:2012-Nov-28 02:38 am (UTC)
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*hug* back!
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From:orleans
Date:2012-Nov-28 04:15 am (UTC)
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Sorry I'm late with my condolences. He sounds like a very interesting man, and I think you did his life justice with your excellent write up.
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From:morgantaur
Date:2012-Nov-28 10:38 pm (UTC)
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*hugs*
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From:davesslave
Date:2012-Nov-29 09:52 pm (UTC)
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I have been offline, so I missed this. My condolences. It's not easy to lose a parent, no matter what the relationship. Your tribute him was beautiful.
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